Monday, March 22, 2010

Under attack...already! I know there are going to be people who disagree with us adopting out of our race...but today I had to hear it from one lady.  Here's how it went down...

I was telling this older lady how we are adopting domestically now.  She asked what I told her, african-american.  Well apparently she had been holding back her feelings about us adopting until today.  She told me that I shouldn't be adopting anyways because we can physically still have children.  She said that there is no reason to adopt when you can have your own kids.  Then she proceeded to tell me that if we were going to adopt then we shouldn't adopt outside of our own race.  She said that it is ridiculous and it is harmful to the child.  So I proceeded with why we are adopting and why we are choosing african american.  I thought...when this lady hears the statistics there is no way she can argue...boy was I wrong!  When I told her about there being approximately 147 million orphans in this world her reply was..."well you can't change the world!"  I said what do you mean I can't change the world...I can change the world for one!  She asked what that was supposed to mean...but didn't let me explain.  She then went on to tell me that only God can change the world.  So I asked do you think he does that...He sends His people to do that!  One small thing at a time!  I said, how do you think anything in this world gets done, it's not everyone doing something at one time...someone has to be the first...someone has to have a dream to change the world!  She just wasn't having it...she told me that only God could change the world...I said, I agree, and he does so thru us!  So then she went on to say some other really mean things about what people will "think" about me if we adopt african american.  Well I got news for you lady...I ain't out to please anyone but my heavenly Father, and I sure don't care what they think!  I was very bitter most of the rest of the day...but then I realized...that I shouldn't be bitter, I just needed to pray for her and ask God to help me be strong in these situations, and not to get upset.

So the moral of the story...there are always going to be people who don't agree with what we are doing...I just gotta remember...I am not doing this for them, I am doing it for HIM!

I am sure this was the first of many encounters I have like this...I just wasn't expecting it yet...or from her.  But I thank God I didn't lose my cool.  Now, maybe I should prepare a little more for such a beating!  Thanks for yall's support!

Much Love!

"But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you." Luke 6:27-28


  1. Chris and I think you guys are amazing for what you are doing. We wish you all the luck in the world. I never realized that people would actually think that way about adoption. I have nothing but major respect for you guys!!!

  2. Wow...ignorance is rampant. Praying for you and your son, God will bless you for opening your heart and your home. Glad the verse was just what you needed...we never realize how many are going through similar struggles until we voice them to one another and how wonderful to draw strength from each other...keeping you and your growing family in our prayers! Beth

  3. I'm so glad I found your blog! We too are adopting from Covenant Care! We have 4 bio children & have received some of the same negative reactions. We ultimately don't care either because we have no doubt that this is what God is calling us to do! I have saved your blog to my links & I look forward to following along~

  4. You are doing the right thing. I cannpt believe the things some people think and say! We are going through the SAME thing right now! God bless your family!